As I’ve been saying for the past several days, the response to my blog posts last week has been incredible. I am absolutely touched and inspired by all the positive comments I’ve received and continue to receive. I think at this point there are over 500 positive comments on the various pages, and you can see the wide range of people who have been touched by this story. I mentioned in a previous post that I wasn’t going to post negative comments. Surprisingly there have been few, and none worth your time even to read.
For example, several were from the same person who left his phone number (among misspellings and grammar errors in all caps) and dared me to call him and tell him I’m gay. Something tells me the conversation wouldn’t be very enlightening:
“Hello, I’m the gay guy you gave your number to.”
One comment I couldn’t tell if it was a joke so I erred on the side of people taking it seriously rather than ironically and left it out. It just said, “This is so gay.” Well, duh. That’s the point.
I’ve been asked by some people if I intend to start doing media appearances now, and I’m contemplating writing a book (or maybe something shorter, like a Kindle Single). The command has given me their full support and encouraged me to do whatever I feel is right. At this point, I’m not inclined to do much more than keep writing here, partially because that night was just one night and I already told the story and partially because I see myself as a career-oriented Marine and I have a lot more to do in my career beyond this. As I said to someone in an email this morning, I can’t wait until taking a date to the ball isn’t considered news.
All that being said, though, it’s clear that Brandon and my night at the ball is something people want to read and hear about. Should it be news? No, but it is. Gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgenders, queers, dykes, fags, homos, and the otherwise not-entirely-straight among us have spent decades (if not centuries) being ignored, harassed, arrested, abused, assaulted, and killed just for being who they are. So it is a big deal when we can just be like everyone else and go on a date to a special event with a special person.
I am not an activist, I am a Marine. I do what I believe is right, and that which serves my sworn oath to support and defend the Constitution of the United States. I believe that repealing DADT was the right thing to do, and that doing so strengthened our military and our nation. I also believe that the fear and hesitation people had were unfounded, and my story is proof. I intend to work personally and professionally to ensure the transition to a post-DADT military continues to be a smooth one, and now that there are openly gay service members all over the world we will be able to assist our military in moving forward and growing stronger.
I’m therefore going to ask you to help me out by forwarding, retweeting, facebooking, and emailing the link to everyone. I would love for more people to pick up the story so we can reach even more. It’s important that young people know it gets better, that veterans know their hardships were not in vain, that victims of assault and abuse are remembered, and that those who would prevent us from achieving equality are corrected in their perception that there is something less or abnormal about us.
Please keep writing and posting comments. I promise I’m reading them–as is everyone else.