Ben and I recently recorded a video about the challenges we will face as a military family under the Defense of Marriage Act. You can watch it here:
The video was released in conjunction with a report by Katie Miller, which you can read here.
Center for American Progress and OutServe-SLDN Video
Work in Progress 
It has been over 25 years since I retired from the military in 1987, and I am amazed that we have come this far in the fight for equality. Now there remains this one last step for true equality under the law for all military personnel and their spouses.
For everyone else, it’s a State-by-State battle for marriage equality, employment equality and housing equality – heck, just plain “equality”. It’s a sad statement of a people if we need laws to say “you can’t stomp me out of existence simply because you don’t like me”.
“Bravo Zulu”
……………………”FOGGY”
I support your view. However, I doubt things will turn around in the time before you head overseas. I’m assuming, being single in the eyes of the corps, that you will be living in a single military accommodation, and, if you opt out of living in that so you and Ben can be together, you will have to pay for that housing without the support of the military. You will also have to pay for his flight and so on. Will Ben be qualified to even look for a job in Japan? I know this is not easy when you are not born there and especially so when you don’t speak the language. Do you have a plan in the event you don’t get support?
This won’t help in the short term, unless you can get funding for the project, but what if you two were to write a book about your experience/struggles, including your time overseas?
We know things aren’t all going to be worked out before we go, but we’ll make our way somehow. Ben and I are definitely going to be blogging our experiences getting over there, and living there over the next few years.
Semper FI Sir, Much regards to you and your partner. Your story has tremendously impacted my life. 9 years in the Corps, I know what it is like first hand, to put personal obligations on the back burner for duty and service to the Corps. I’ve watched the highlights of Ben and you pretty much show the world what our view point of being committed partners in the service is all about, and how just repealing DADT didn’t quite fix the underlying issues at hand. Your story, has sparked the fire i needed to become active in the overall equality across the board. I do wish the best for you and your partner. God Speed, and Semper Fidelis.